Brene Brown is a wonderful researcher, writer, and professor. I would definitely recommend watching her TED talks. She is an awesome public speaker. She has written many books based on her research.
This review is about her book “The gifts of imperfection”. She talks about how we can embrace these three gifts of imperfection; courage, compassion, and connection. How we can embrace wholehearted living. She speaks for her experiences and the data used in her research, how she has come to a better understanding of shame and fear that gets in the way. I love when she says it is not always about “HOW TO” find happiness, how to be joyful etc but it is also talking about those things that get in the way of happiness and joyful life. We don’t understand these gifts of imperfection that taught us that no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, we are enough. It is like a reminder that; YES, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.
She also highlights the importance of that nobody is born with courage, compassion, connection or confidence, we practice those skills throughout our lives. She talks about how we can let go of people’s acceptance or approval by keeping authenticity or by keeping it real. She talks about perfectionism which is an unattainable goal simply because there is no such thing as perfect. We need to find the courage and to practice shame resilience so that we can embrace our imperfections. She talks about the comparison that is the thief of happiness. When we don’t feel enough gratitude for what we are blessed with, we start comparing ourselves to other people.
I love how she talks about play and rest which is very essential to our health and functioning as rest. I also love the idea of calm and stillness. We all should experiment with different forms of still and quiet that works for us, for some people, it could be meditating, walking alone, writing or anything. It is also very emphasized that we need to find some meaningful work that makes us happy. It is okay if we lost our cool sometimes, the important thing is to give ourselves permission to be free.
“LET GO OF WHO YOU THINK YOU’RE SUPPOSED TO BE AND EMBRACE WHO YOU ARE”
… Brene Brown …